I’m glad that God is faithful to me. Without fail, he is always there for me, always loving me, always strengthening me. He will never leave me nor forsake me.

Our culture seems to lack faithfulness. In fact, our culture lacks all of the fruit of the Spirit. These fruit, or qualities, are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23), and there is a very good reason that we don’t find these qualities abounding in society. They aren’t human nature.


I’m expecting that by the time I have teenaged children, the divorce rate in America will be between 60-75%. The signs are everywhere that marriage is failing. Know what I see all the time in movies and other media? Aside from divorce, what I see is people questioning the very idea of marriage. They ask, “How can I really say I’ll love one person for the rest of my life? How can I promise to stay with one person forever?”

The thing is, people are rebelling against marriage because it’s not natural to them. We all need to have human companionship, but this idea of one man and one woman committing to each other for a lifetime and becoming one flesh is a Biblical thing. Maybe it has been a process. Throughout time, ever since the Fall, creation has been constantly degrading, and maybe things like the fruit of the Spirit will become more and more difficult to grasp the further we fall. I don’t know.

What I do know is that I fear for future generations. Christians need to continue to strive to bear good fruit and set examples for their children and friends!

Our Example and Our Reason

Jesus was both fully man and fully God, thus making him literally a perfect example of how to behave as a human being. For one thing, he was human and someone we can emulate. Secondly, he was God, so he did not fall short the way we will. We aren’t divine; none of us is perfect. But we do have a perfect example, and if we strive for perfection, we may achieve excellence.

Jesus was faithful to his family and friends as well as to God the Father. Even unto death.

“Faithfulness matters because it matters to God. Period. The longer I walk with the Lord and the more I fall in love with Him, the more I am convinced that the core characteristic that He is looking for in us is faith(fulness).”
Why Faithfulness Matters –

Living Loyally

As much as loyalty is highlighted as a virtue, it’s not always easy to be loyal. Still, it’s my goal to be known as a loyal person, with God’s help. I hope that my friends know that they can always count on me to stick by their sides and love them. I know my husband believes in me to always love and honor him. I pray that God continues to help me continually draw near to him and glorify him with my life.

But on a personal note, what I’m struggling with lately is believing in others’ loyalty to me. Sometimes it feels like friends are only friends as long as it’s convenient. People only seem to check up on you when you give them cause to worry, and people are only there for you if and only if you’re there for them. It’s a hard thing to deal with, but I must remind myself that faithfulness does not come naturally, even to me. I must remember that where humans fail, God never does. And I must continue striving to be faithful to my friends, not to earn their loyalty in return, but because God expects it of me. He expects me not to live a life that comes naturally, but rather to live a supernatural life, one that I can only live with his help.

Five for Friday X

Previous Fridays

Five reasons I love my Hubby today…

1. I love how insightful you are with music & really all art.

2. I love how observant you are.

3. I love your perseverance.

4. I love how you’re so surprised when I make a joke.

5. I love that you’ll be home before the next FFF.



What do you see when you look at the world? Do you dwell on the most hopeful aspects of life and expect mostly positive outcomes? Do you wake up thinking, “This is going to be a good day!” like many of my friends? Or… do you wake up thinking, “I don’t know about this day. There’s a lot that could go wrong.” Maybe, like me, you tend to have a more gloomy outlook.

In other words, are you an optimist or a pessimist? If you’re one of the latter, don’t be too concerned, because honestly I think I’m the most negative person I know. 🙂

Rose-Colored Glasses

When I think of rose-colored glasses, I think of an episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch I watched when I was probably in Jr. High. In order to blind someone to the nasty truth, Sabrina cast a spell and put these glasses with pink lenses on someone else who then saw everything in a positive light. That’s a cute way to look at it, but of course it’s not very realistic, seeing as how that kind of magic doesn’t exist.

I don’t know anyone with rose-colored glasses, but I know some people with rose-colored eyes. Or maybe it’s their brains? I’m not sure. The difference is that the optimists I know don’t put on glasses in the morning and choose to only see the positive. They just DO. That’s just how they (and maybe you) think, without trying. And most of us face the same reality, see the same things – but we perceive it in different ways.

Glass Half Empty

A negative person deals with a constant struggle, both within and without. Believe me, I know from experience. This person must carefully balance how much to tell others: tell too much, too often, and not only do the others tire of hearing it, but the person may also feel guilty for pulling others down to his level; tell too little, and the person realizes he’s being dishonest, maybe even shallow, and may feel as if his friends really only like him for the front he puts up.

Those who are positive also face a dilemma. Do you remain friends with someone once you discover a negative or pessimistic attitude? How much time are you willing to spend with this friend, and how much can you listen to before it starts to drag you down?

Dealing With Each Other

How does one deal with negative friends? It requires patience, love, and sometimes gently reminding your friends that they are only looking at the negative side of things. Simpler than you might think, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy.

As far as handling negativity in yourself, I have a few suggestions that I think apply whether you’re negative sometimes, most of the time, or all of the time.

1. Accept your feelings but not your thoughts. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. I don’t think it’s healthy to tell yourself not to feel a certain way. It’s okay to feel like there’s no hope. However, it’s not okay to sit there and tell yourself over and over that it’s true. Try to reform your thinking habits. Tell yourself you can’t predict the future, and it could very well turn out better than you thought. If necessary, distract yourself with something else. When trying to break a habit, rather than telling yourself not to do such-and-such, which causes you to constantly think about it, change your focus to something else. Then you’re more likely to forget about whatever it was.

2. Thank others for listening. If you have friends who love you and are kind enough to listen to you rant sometimes, be sure to thank them for listening. It can hurt to open yourself up to someone else’s complaints and receive nothing for your efforts except to be expected to do it again and again. Sometimes we just need people to listen, and if our friends are meeting that need, they deserve gratitude, if not more.

3. Try to see the lighter side. After venting, if your friend tries to tell you how they see it, don’t shut your friend out just because his outlook is different. Try to see it from his eyes. Even if you don’t agree.

4. Recognize and seek out truth. Your thoughts aren’t necessarily reflective of the truth. They are truly your thoughts, but you aren’t omnipotent; no one is. Rather than dwelling on your feelings and thoughts, dwell on what you know to be truth. The best source is, of course, the Bible.

So, Thanks

I want to publically thank all of my friends for dealing with me and listening to me rant as often as they do. I do appreciate it, and I’m grateful to you all. I’ve struggled with negativity, some times more than others, for most of my life, but I’ve also been on the other side of the fence. And I know that it can be hard. Thank you! I love you guys!

Now, quick, what are you thoughts? Which group do you fall into? Do you have any suggestions for how to deal with someone who sees things in a more negative – or more positive – light than you do?

Father’s Day

I hope everyone had a good Father’s Day yesterday! I did, actually. I spent it with my step-father and mother, who were in town visiting for a few days. This made the first Father’s Day I’ve actually spent with him since they moved away from Texas.

My Father Figures

My mom remarried when I was thirteen, and in my mind, I was pretty much raised and practically full-grown. For years, John was my mother’s husband, but to me personally he wasn’t really anything. I noticed that Mom seemed to have a lot of time for him and not as much for me, so for some time I resented that. During my more rebellious times, there were decisions made by the two of them that I blamed fully on him rather than equally on him and my mom, and that made me resent him more.

But now I’m just grateful.

There was no one else in my life acting as the sort of father figure and male role model that I needed to see. John was more firm with me than my mother probably would have been, alone, and he had a right to be so! He cared about me from the time they got married, and I know now what I couldn’t always see, then – that he did so many things for me out of love, even though neither of us said “I love you” until sometime within the last few years. And now, as I’ve matured enough that he doesn’t have to try to keep me from hurting myself, I’m learning to enjoy our relationship even more. I’m so glad to have him!

My grandfather is the other father figure in my life. He took me to the parks when I was little and played Pocahontas with my friends and me in the woods. He taught me about birds, trees, and constellations. He was the one to teach me how to whistle through my hands in that way that sounds like a dove call, and he was the one so proud of the pig-latin-type language I made up as a child. My father wasn’t there to do those things with me, but Grampa was.

Now that I’m older, Grampa is still a special person in my life. He helped me get my first car and is always willing to step in at times when I need a father’s reassurance or advice. He was one of the key people whose approval I wanted when I was getting married. My husband and I long to spend more time with him and glean what wisdom we can from him.

My Dad

In many ways, my dad was less of a dad for me than the others. But I still honor him on Father’s Day. He isn’t perfect, but he’s my dad. God knew… everything that would happen in my life, and God still demands that I respect my parents.

When I was three, they divorced, and Dad moved away. But every summer when I was young, he was the one who paid to have me fly out to visit him. He taught me to fish, to bait a hook, to love the ocean. He taught me about a different kind of love between man and wife than I would have learned at home. He has taught me that you must make hard decisions in life and then live with the consequences. He has taught me that faith and perseverance can sustain you through many trials. And though he wasn’t here to get to know me and my husband, his sentiments during a phone call when I told him we were dating, and then engaged, were worth as much to me as my Grampa’s approval and John’s willingness to walk me down the aisle.

My Husband

My husband doesn’t get a father’s day card yet, but I’m so happy that he is the man who will be Dad and Father Figure to our children. From the good examples on his side of the family, Hubby has become someone I deeply respect. I have confidence in him to be a great father, and I’m excitedly anticipating the year that I can also give him a tribute! 🙂

Five for Friday IX

Previous Fridays

Every Friday I try to post five reasons I love my husband!

1. I love your faith.

2. I love your adventurousness.

3. I love when you tell me I should take care of myself. 😛

4. I love you when I hear our song.

5. I love that you’re reading the Wheel of Time books.